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Lessons Learned

4 Jan

I’ve already written about how much I was ready for 2013 to be over. Because I was ready to move in to another year, a better year. I never go through anything ¬†without looking back on it and reflecting on how it changed me, made me stronger, what it taught me. So, today I’m going to think back on the lessons 2013 gave to me. These are the things I learned throughout the year.

I learned that, no matter how hard you try, you can’t make someone (not even yourself) fall in love, or out of love, with someone else. Why and how one falls in love is a mystery. It’s the most beautiful and most painful of emotions. And, if you’re lucky enough to be in love with someone who is in love with you back, nurture and protect that love. That is the most beautiful of fairy tales.

I learned that people can be cruel. Over the last couple of months, there have been an influx of visitors to Life As I Know It. And I am so thankful for each of you that take the time to read the words of my heart. I am thankful for the people who lift me up and tell me I’m doing something right. I am thankful for the people who disagree with me, but do it politely and with respect. I am thankful for the people who think I’m right and those that think I’m wrong. But there are a few who have left words that I refuse to give light to. People attacking me for my thoughts. People saying hurtful things about my children. People who left me questioning whether continuing to write was something I could do. And I came to this conclusion: we are all beautifully different. We all have different parenting styles. We all have different belief systems. We all have different outlooks on life. We all have different lives. I celebrate that! I read every comment written on this blog and some of you have made me rethink some things. I appreciate people who challenge me to think outside of the spot I live in. I appreciate people who have differing opinions than mine. But, as you post on my blog, as you live day-to-day with other human beings who may see the world differently than you do, please remember this: Honesty is never a good excuse to be cruel. We should all be more kind to one another.

I learned that lip gloss will never come out of clothes after being in the washing machine.

I learned that, eventually, those old favorite jeans need to be retired for new favorite jeans.

I learned that, no matter how far away your mom is, you always need to go running to her when your life turns upside down.

I learned that I am not as breakable as I thought I was.

I learned that, when your child is hurting, it is amazing the amount of personal pain you can set aside to be a rock and a safe place for them to be.

I learned that there are people in this world whose hearts are bigger than any disease they may be fighting.

I learned that children are far stronger, and far more resilient, than most of us adults.

I learned that life is far too short to take one minute for granted.

I learned that red wine, music I can dance to, and an empty kitchen are the perfect environment to cook in.

I learned that God works in ways far more mysterious than I ever realized before and that when His plans unfold slowly and you can’t figure out where life will go from here, it is the scariest, yet somehow most peaceful, place in the world.

I learned that people will take any opportunity they can get to jump on opposite sides of a cause and belittle and demean one another in the name of defending their beliefs.

I learned that watching my son turn 6 and become more and more independent brings about more feelings of pride, and sadness, than I expected.

I learned that the stomach flu has to have been created by the devil and is an effective and horrible method of torture.

I learned that chronic back pain is not something that can be explained to anyone who hasn’t lived it.

I learned that infertility seems endlessly painful.

I learned that the right set of underwear brings about an unexplainable confidence; even if no one else ever sees them.

I learned that movie nights are better with comfy pjs, popcorn, and far too many people smushed onto one couch.

I learned that the internet is a fantastic resource for fantastic new recipes.

I learned that some things never change. Some things are constantly changing; sometimes for the better, sometimes not. And some things, and people, need space and time and opportunity and patience to change and grow and become better versions of their awesome selves. And that if I can continue to allow myself to grow and change and become better, it will be an amazing ride on this ever-evolving Life As I Know It.


My next 30 years

10 Jun
Candles spell out the traditional English birt...

Candles spell out the traditional English birthday greeting (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Today is my birthday. I am officially in my 30’s. 31. When I stop to reflect on my life, to take a moment to analyze where I’ve come from, I have mixed feelings. I am proud of myself. I am disappointed in myself. And I am hopeful for the future. I have grown from a quiet and shy child, a mildly outgoing teenager, a confused and wandering college student, a young and naive teacher, a self-assured and outgoing woman, a blessed friend, a grateful mother, a wife. I have come so far in realizing my dreams of what I want my life to look like. And I have so far to go.

In my next 30 years, I want to take more time to enjoy the life around me. I want to stay connected to the people I love, not the technology that takes away from real relationships.
In my next 30 years, I want to appreciate the little things. A beautiful sunny day, a beautiful thunderstorm, a beautiful rainbow. I want to make sure that I make the most of each day I’m given.
In my next 30 years, I want to focus on making memories. I want to laugh and play with my children. I want to hold my husband’s hand. I want to have fun with old friends.
In my next 30 years, I want to see as much as I can. I want to teach my children to appreciate the history and beauty of our great country. I want to take vacations and road trips. I want to experience so many things with my family, old and new.
In my next 30 years, I want to prepare for getting older. I want to take better care of myself; physically, mentally, emotionally. I want to save money for our future. I want to leave a legacy my children can be proud of.
In my next 30 years, I want to shape the future. I want to continue to learn about my profession and better myself. I want to continue to help my students be ready for the real world and all that it entails. I want them to know how much I care about them and do everything I can to help them realize their potential and be successful.
In my next 30 years, I want to give to my family. I want to example love and grace, strength and determination, selflessness and courage. I want my children and my husband to feel all of the love that I have for them. I want them to somehow be better because I have done something right.
In my next 30 years, I want to live. I want to laugh loudly. I want to cry honestly. I want to feel passionately. I want to love recklessly. I want to give unselfishly. I want to dance and sing unreservedly. I want to pray unceasingly. I want to believe faithfully. I want to dream uncontainably. I want to age gracefully. I want to do it all.
Welcome to my next 30 years.


10 May

The person I want to be almost always has a smile on her face. She speaks with grace and poise. She laughs more often than she cries. She controls her temper and finds the proper ways to stand up for herself. She lends a hand to others and sets an example to those around her.

The person I want to be is funny and kind. She holds her tongue when necessary and speaks words of wisdom and truth. She is feisty and full of life. She is

beautiful butterfly

not afraid to be herself because who she is is beautiful. She is confident because she knows she is worthy. No one could ever convince her she is anything less than magic.

The person I want to be is responsible and trustworthy. But, at the same time, she is carefree and not afraid to fly. She is the life of the party, but it’s natural; her personality is just that big. She is comfortable in her own skin and unique in her style.

The person I want to be is full of faith and never-ending dreams. She is grounded enough to see reality, but she never quite walks with her feet on the ground. She believes that anything is possible and she sees the beauty in the world around her. She lives a life based on integrity; centered on God.

The person I want to be makes her husband feel like the only man in the world. She is supportive and patient. Loving and strong. She is the kind of wife that makes him feel fortunate to love her.

The person I want to be is the kind of mommy her kids deserve. She is never impatient or too busy. She is always full of fun ideas and interesting activities. She says “yes” way more often than she says “no”. She is someone they look up to and respect; and she is their best friend.

The person I want to be is a great friend. She is unselfish and giving. She is a better listener than speaker. She is joyous when the situation calls for it and sympathetic when needed. She laughs and cries alongside. She shares deepest secrets and glasses of wine.

The person I want to be is so many things. She is who I wish to see when I look in the mirror. She is who I pray, each evening, I wake up to each morning. One of these days, though. One of these days, this is the person I will be remembered as. This is who I will be.

A new plan

25 Feb

I am horribly unmotivated. I have a hard time

56/365 morning run

56/365 morning run (Photo credit: kharied)

remaining on track any time I try to start some kind of healthier living plan. I think maybe it’s because I try to do too much to fast. I push myself too hard and I get burnt out. I just give up. I don’t have the financial resources, or the time it takes, to go to a gym. I get bored working out at home and I just don’t like it. I have started so many workout “plans” just to give them up after a couple of weeks.

That’s why I am so excited to have found this. The Couch-to-5K running plan. I love to walk outside with my son. I love to be outside in the sunshine and the fresh air. I have, for several years, wanted to participate in a mini-marathon. This is perfect! It has a step-by-step workout plan. It is 3-4 days a week, so I won’t overdo it, or feel like it’s too much. And, it is made for people who aren’t in perfect shape already, so I won’t feel like a failure. If I stick with it, I will be able to run/jog 3 miles by the middle of April. I am so excited about it! Isaiah will be too, since he can load up in the jogging stroller and ride along. This is the first step towards a healthier me!

I need step-by-step plans that are realistic and don’t make you hate life. Whether they are for eating healthier or exercising. If you know where I can find others, point me in the right direction!

Feel the Burn

25 Jan

That moment after you’ve spent some time exercising and you start to get up from a sitting position, but all of your muscles start screaming at once. That pain associated with working on a better you… This better be worth it.

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