The red squares

29 Mar

This week has been an interesting one. A week of debates, harsh words, and judgement. A week of closed-mindedness masking itself as open-mindedness. A week of hate, a week of taking sides, a week of regression.

The gay marriage debate is not a new one. It is something that has been argued back and forth for years. It is an issue that divides people quickly; with not much middle ground. It is a catalyst for people sharing their opinions, and attacking those that don’t agree with them. If you sit back and watch, you can see it causing a division that is miles wide.

I have friends that are on both sides of this debate. I have friends, whom I respect and love, that are on the opposite side of this debate than I am. (I won’t share my personal opinion here. That isn’t what this post is about.) Most people who are very passionate about this issue, on either side, are able to back up their opinion based on a strong set of beliefs. I have seen arguments for both sides that are worded very respectfully and without malice. Most of what I’ve seen however, is anger, disrespect, and an inability to accept those that believe differently.

People who are passionately pro-gay marriage are very quick to put down religion and those that place their faith in God. They are quick to point out how hypocritical and unloving Christians are. They are quick to claim their right to believe the way that they want while, at the same time, arguing that those that don’t share those beliefs should not be able to speak their minds. They claim to be open-minded, but they only mean open to what they believe to be true.

People who are passionately anti-gay marriage (usually the Christian demographic) are very quick to put down those that are gay or supportive of someone who is. They are quick to point out how disappointed God is in everyone else. They are quick to judge and condemn. They are quick to claim their right to believe the way that they want while, at the same time, arguing that those that don’t share those beliefs should not be able to speak their minds. They claim to love, but they only mean loving those who believe the same truth they believe.

When did we, as a society, lose the ability to disagree with respect? When did we lose sight of unity as a nation, as a people? When did we become so unable to be passionate about a subject, to stand on opposite sides of an issue, but to love despite our different opinions? When did we begin to let our differences divide, instead of just making for interesting, intense conversation? When?

Or were we ever really what I imagined?

This week has saddened me. Whatever the outcome, whatever the court decision, I fear this week is not something we will quickly recover from. The words that have been spoken, the lines that have been drawn, the relationships that have been changed… those things will echo throughout the future. And their effects may be far-reaching.


One Response to “The red squares”

  1. faithsmomma March 31, 2013 at 11:32 pm #

    100% AGREE!!!

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