17 Things Boys Need from their Moms

6 Feb

Children need many things from their parents. They need stability, protection, nurturing, and love. They also need other things, different things from each of their parents. I have seen several such lists, and I wanted to add my opinion into the mix.

Because I am a mommy to a little boy, this is what I know. So, here’s the list of things I pray I give to my little guy, in order to help him grow into a good man – the things I think every little boy needs from his mom.

A boy needs:

Candid moment captured

Candid moment captured (Photo credit: tommie m)

To be showered with affection – hugs, kisses, all of it. Until he is big enough to not want that anymore. Then he needs you to ruffle his hair, put your hand on his shoulder, and hug him anyway. He needs to know the importance of human contact so that he doesn’t keep it from his wife or children.
To dance – in the car, in the living room, in the front yard. Slow dance, crazy dance, any kind of dancing the song calls for, even if there’s no song at all. He will learn that life has a soundtrack. That there is no moment too small to celebrate, and the big ones….. they almost always call for dancing.
To be told secrets – and let him tell them to you. Big or small. Doesn’t matter what they are. He needs to know that he can always talk to you, about anything. And besides, secrets are fun!
For you to marry the kind of man you want him to be – because he will. His views of marriage are shaped by what he sees from you. He will model himself after the men in his life. The kind of husband he is, the kind of father he is, the kind of man he is. You can’t example that to him, so find someone who will.
To learn the kinds of things that women need – tell him your favorite flower and let him “buy” them for you. Let him take you out to dinner. Let him know that girls like jewelry, and shoes. Let him open doors and hold your hand. Show him what a gentleman looks like.
To appreciate beauty, real beauty – don’t put yourself down in front of him. He will learn to see you like you see you. He will, at some point, think you are the most beautiful woman in the world. Let him. Don’t tell him he’s wrong. Let him watch you do your nails, your hair, and your make-up. It won’t make him less “manly”, but it will help him understand that women need to feel beautiful. Hopefully, he’ll spend the rest of his life appreciating the lengths we go to in order to attain that beauty.
Discipline – don’t just let his father do it. He needs to respect that you are a figure of authority also. He needs to know that your voice carries just as much weight. He needs to understand what co-parenting looks like; he’ll do it himself someday.
To respect – he will treat his wife the way he was allowed to treat you. He will treat every woman the way he was allowed to treat you. Show him that the correct way to speak to women is with respect and dignity. He’ll thank you for it some day.
To learn to say ‘sir’ and ‘miss’ – it will take him so far in life. People appreciate this little extra bit of politeness and respect. It can make someone’s day to be made to feel important and appreciated.
Comfort – kiss his boo boo’s, hold him when he needs it. He’ll learn that when it hurts, it’s ok to cry. Eventually your kisses won’t fix everything, but knowing that you want to fix it, that you wish you could heal every one of his broken hearts, it will give him some comfort. It will give him a place to start healing and a spot to launch from when the time comes to get back up.
Responsibility – make him put his own laundry away, take out the trash, and help you do the dishes. Make him earn an allowance to save up for that new guitar, or video game, or baseball equipment. If you don’t, all housework will forever be known as “woman’s work” and nobody wants a man like that. You want him to be the man who will step up and help his wife take care of their home. You want him to learn to take care of the things he has acquired and you want him to know how to work for something he wants.
To learn his lesson – even the hard ones. This is one of the hardest parts. As mothers we want to shield our children from the big, bad world. We want to run to them every time we see them start down a path that will lead no place good. We want to take their place every time they might get hurt. And sometimes they need that. Sometimes they need shielding and protecting. Sometimes they need mom to swoop in and save the day. And sometimes they don’t. They will be more effective adults if they are given the opportunity to learn that actions have consequences. They will be more effective adults if they learn how to walk away or say no themselves. And they will be more effective adults if they learn how to handle disappointment.
To see his mom respect his father – show him every day what respect looks like. Show him the way a wife should treat her husband. If you’re not married to his father, show him the way to co-parent peacefully, with respect. He needs a woman who will respect him. Show him what to look for.
Love, unconditionally – and make sure he knows it. When he’s being sweet and obedient. And when he’s not. Every time my son is in trouble, after he has served out whatever punishment he has earned and/or we have had the necessary discussions, I always tell him I love him. We always end on a positive. I never want him to doubt my love for him and I want him to understand that there is nothing he could do to make my love for him diminish. It is very important to me that he knows my love for him is unconditional.
To talk to his mom about sex – when he’s old enough and the timing is right. Let his dad talk to him, too, but he needs a woman’s perspective. He needs to know the emotional sides to sex and the ways in which he can damage, or love, a woman with them. He needs to have a place he can ask questions and be honest. He needs more than just the facts and the hormones.
His mom to be his biggest fan – whether it be on the t-ball field or at the World Series, his first guitar lesson or a stage, a finger painting or an art gallery masterpiece. Be his biggest fan. The world is full of people just waiting to show him he’s not the best. Let him know, that in your eyes, they will always be wrong.
His mom to be right next to him – through everything. Hold his little body when he’s sick and his hand when he’s broken-hearted. Stand next to him, with pride, on his first day of kindergarten and his high school graduation. Help him fix his tie for his first date and his wedding day. Be the first one to him after the birth of his children. Be right next to him… every time.

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533 Responses to “17 Things Boys Need from their Moms”

  1. dawn December 18, 2013 at 2:12 am #

    Thank you for this. I recently left my husband, becoming a single mom to a 12 year old boy and a 14 year old girl. This helped reaffirm why I left my husband, and what I have to continue to give my not so little man.

  2. sisterpatriot December 18, 2013 at 7:56 am #

    Thank you for writing this wonderful article. I’m a Mommy to two boys & this is SO true. I will be sharing this with my friends with sons. ❤

  3. Maureen December 18, 2013 at 2:43 pm #

    That’s a wonderful post, as a mother to two boys who’ve grown into men, most of it rang true. I do have one observation – girls aren’t always about jewelry, shoes, nails, hair and makeup……some girls love books, ball gloves, bicycles……..boys are well served to learn what’s important to the girls/women in their lives, whatever that may be.

    • Laura Parker December 27, 2013 at 7:32 pm #

      Exactly Maureen! They aren’t marrying us, after all!

    • Brooke Gordon December 30, 2013 at 8:19 pm #

      I completely agree with this! I think it may have been better worded had it said something like, be observant, listen, know what the other person wants (because shoes and jewelry are NOT needs!).. Best present I ever got from my husband: Before I moved in with him, my dogs destroyed one of my favorite books, as it was also my Mom’s favorite, I kept the pieces (since she is no longer with us). My husband asked about it, and I told him. Never mentioned it again. 11 months later, Christmas rolls around, and I open up my present to see that book – which is very hard to find, as it has been out of print for ages. That is what a boy should learn – to give presents that mean something, not just the easy stuff.

      • Laura Parker December 31, 2013 at 12:02 am #

        If jewelry, shoes, and flowers “aren’t NEEDS” in your opinion, I feel that I must point out that books are not necessary to sustain life either. Different people value different things in life.

      • Brooke Gordon December 31, 2013 at 12:09 am #

        Never said books were needs either – was just pointing out that need and want are very different, and people tend to get those mixed up frequently in our society.

  4. Alicia December 19, 2013 at 4:02 pm #

    Great post,however, I don’t agree about the beauty part. I find it important to encourage our children to be as natural as possible. Make up is not beautiful and does not ADD to our beauty but takes away from our beauty.

    • Laura Parker December 27, 2013 at 7:34 pm #

      So Alicia, when your sons grow up and marry a woman who cares a great deal about her appearance, are you going to tell them that their wives are wrong?

      • Christina December 30, 2013 at 5:45 am #

        Um, no. You need to teach your children that all women, and men, are different. Some love beauty and jewelry, which is totally fine. Others might rather be given a trip somewhere or an outdoor adventure. You should never put women or men into the gender norm stereotypes. Everyone is different, and that is totally fine.

      • Khristina Venetis January 8, 2014 at 6:38 am #

        I don’t know if anyone will see or read this- I see there are a great deal of comments and I read as many as I could for now. I just wanted to say that I agree 100%. I happen to like girlie things and not so girly things. Only one man has ever bought me flowers and it was a HUGE deal to me. I don’t feel whole or even normal in the slightest way without my eyeliner and mascara. I don’t like it when men tell me I don’t need it. Cause to me I DO NEED IT- and I just want them to understand that I need it 🙂 I am a single mom and I have a son and daughter. My little man will be 2 soon and he has meet his father once- and it did not go well. I want to try my hardest to not show disrepect toward his father. His father was abusive towards me and my daughter so it makes it very hard to be super nice. I try to do the Christain thing I guess you could say. Treat everyone how Jesus would and ALWAYS love uncondionaly. This was full of so many great reminders. I will pray for you all and wish you the best in this amazing life!!!

  5. siti December 20, 2013 at 9:09 pm #

    I actually teared reading some of these.
    Thank you.

  6. Beckie December 21, 2013 at 11:44 pm #

    As a proud mother of 7 boys I totally agree….I love being a mother of boys! In fact, when pregnant with my oopps, I mean last at 42, 5 months post liver transplant, all I heard was ” surely God will bless you with a girl after all you’ve been through”, my ultimate wish of course was for a healthy baby, yet if given the choice I proudly stated I wanted another boy. Thanks for sharing….the information is priceless, and I will utilize it with the youngest 3 still at home.

  7. Julie December 23, 2013 at 4:40 pm #

    I read this and understand where you are coming from. I would greatly appreciate seeing a man’s sincere viewpoint. Any guys out there?

  8. john December 23, 2013 at 5:03 pm #

    great articles…What boys learn from their Moms and girls from their Daddies..Do you have info regarding what girls learn (or need to know) from their Moms and similarly, boys from their Daddies…??

  9. David Pennington December 23, 2013 at 5:11 pm #

    I’m a Dad! Me 3 boys are now fine grownups, and the respect women ‘cos were raised in such an environment. Very nice list, all my support! – David

  10. c0cky December 23, 2013 at 10:38 pm #

    what..women like different things to men? I thought we were all ‘equal’,and,you know,women can be cops and firefighters and frontline combat troops…geez,this list has forced a rethink from my end..wow..

    • Sandra Gillette December 24, 2013 at 5:01 am #

      You have the right nickname. We are all of equal worth and value, women don’t have to be like men to be valued and accepted. And a big thank you to the woman cop who ended the domestic violence next door, to the woman firefighter who brought out a 6 months old baby right after the male firefighter brought out his mom and a big salute to the woman helicopter pilot who brought out my neighbor’s son after heavy fighting in Iraq. What do YOU do… beside put women down?

  11. Barbara December 24, 2013 at 5:30 pm #

    I forget at times that my son can hear me talk about myself, I am working on loving myself more so that he knows what beauty inside and out is and not to worry about the petty things in life. Thank you for this message!

  12. Rob Litchfield December 24, 2013 at 5:53 pm #

    This article has fed my heart and soul! I am profoundly grateful to have read it at the ripe old age of 85. Thank you!

  13. Kerry December 24, 2013 at 8:49 pm #

    “To learn the kinds of things that women need” Riiiiiiiiiiight. It’s never too early to start brainwashing a little boy to become a man-slave to woman later in life. And don’t teach him to be a “gentleman.” Thanks to feminism, it’s a “gentleman” who eventually finds himself divorced, cast out of the house he worked for years to buy, and getting time with his children at the whim of his ex.

    • Laura Parker December 27, 2013 at 7:38 pm #

      Well, if they don’t learn it Kerry they will certainly end up divorced. No woman I know wants a slave. They will not settle for someone who does not respect and value them, however.

    • faithfilledmommy January 1, 2014 at 9:24 pm #

      Husbands and wives should “serve” the other and hold the other in higher regard than themselves. It is wrong that husband should be made slave to wife, but on the flip side, neither should the wife be slave to the husband. Its a partnership, not a master-slave relationship.

  14. Annabelle December 25, 2013 at 12:10 am #

    I like all of them except the one about boys NEEDING you to marry someone who will respect you. No one has wanted me since their dad left me 13 years ago, even though I have many friends, a compassionate heart, a pretty face, and a good job. So I have taught them that a woman does not need to get her value from a man; rather, she is good and worthy all on her own, and if a man sees the value in that and complements her, that is terrific, but if not, she is still good and worthy all on her own – and so are they.

    • butterflywritersm December 26, 2013 at 2:33 am #

      I agree with this. I was meaning that if you were married, it needed to be a positive influence for them. I was a single mom for several years. Definitely NOT implying that a woman needs a man to be a good mom!

      • faithfilledmommy January 1, 2014 at 9:32 pm #

        I don’t know a man that doesn’t have a problem/s. If their issue is not a danger to themselves or the children, I do not believe you should leave hum, which I feel some of the commenters are inferring. Divorce is WAY too out of control nowadays, and people divorce for ridiculous reasons, like their husband is hard to get along with, or “I just dont love hum anymore!” and garbage like that. Bull crap. Ain’t ever been a relationship that was easy, and the struggle is worth it to do it right. If you’re going to divorce, it better dang well be warranted by something other than your superficial feelings, neglect of intimacy, or lack of tending to your spouse’s heart and affections.

  15. motormommy December 27, 2013 at 5:24 pm #

    Great post. Have to agree with some of the comments regarding jewelry and shoes, but I think the point is that a boy should learn what his mommy likes and see how enjoyable it is to make her happy. Then, later in life, he’ll learn what other women in his life like and how to spoil them accordingly. He’ll know how wonderful it feels to pay attention and make someone you love feel special. (A lot of mommies do like jewelry and shoes, even if I don’t, so I will let it go :-)!)

  16. A December 28, 2013 at 4:37 am #

    This is very pretty and nice, but it sorta makes me sad that it even needed to be written. Because the moms that need to read this are likely not ever going to, and the ones that are doing all this already are reading this and agreeing and getting it. It’s so sad to think there are children out there that are not getting the most basic of upbringings to teach them to be good adults. Kudos for the article and consider sources for publishing it for mothers that really need to read it. Because from your commenters, this audience is made up of really good parents who can all agree to the importance of these lessons, but it needs to be put out a greater audience.

    • Khristina Venetis January 8, 2014 at 6:47 am #

      I posted a link to this article on some of the horrid youtube videos of bad parenting..hoping someone who needed this would see it…BUT someone is either GOOD or BAD- I think if they wanted to change and and do the write thing then they would have. But then again..Jesus can change people, so it is for sure worth the hope and effort.

  17. Annette December 28, 2013 at 5:42 pm #

    I am fortunate to have the father described in this article for our boys. I feel for those without that immediate example, but I take heart knowing that those significant adults can be found outside our immediate families. I wish everyone the best in finding significant adult role models for their children.

  18. Sharingmom January 1, 2014 at 6:12 pm #

    As a mother of two boys myself I found this to be quite lovely. Boys should also be taught about “how to choose a wife”. Thought you might like this article here: http://sharingmom.com/how-to-choose-a-wife-a-love-letter-to-my-sons/

  19. Lindy Henry January 2, 2014 at 3:49 pm #

    Good info

  20. Marilyn January 2, 2014 at 7:53 pm #

    I am a 68 yr old grandmother to my 12 year old grandson, his own mother, my daughter, passed away when he was just 3 yrs old, I have tried to teach my grandson all these things, he sees how I behave with him, given him love, support, cuddles! and when he has had a bad dream it’s no problem if he hops into bed with me for the rest of the night. Now his Dad, who has not remarried, is suffering from a virulent form of brain cancer, where and how do I get the strength to get through this one? I guess there will be more than 17 things boys need to know from their “Moms” ………… Any suggestions please!

    • Suzanne January 3, 2014 at 1:22 am #

      Marilyn, so sorry for your losses. Prayers to you in your journey. You have the advantage of age and the wisdom that likely came with the living to help you know what to do. You will do just fine. Hugs.

  21. Lanthanide January 3, 2014 at 8:43 pm #

    This article is typically heterosexist.

    You should add a #18 and re-word all of your other entries: don’t assume your son will be straight.

  22. Brenda January 4, 2014 at 2:28 am #

    What a beautiful article. Thank you for sharing ❤ Its too bad people need to be so defensive, why can they just take things as a general comment…. For you to feel beautiful you like to get dressed up, for others feeling beautiful is something else…. I believe the message is to teach our boys about beauty in all/any form. While reading this article remember that, it really is a wonderful read… And 100% how me and my little man "roll" ❤

    • Marilyn January 4, 2014 at 3:40 pm #

      Brenda you are so right! Well said.m

  23. Dana Wallis January 4, 2014 at 3:36 pm #

    As the mother of 3 boys I wish I had read this article when I was a bit younger. My 2 oldest (19 and 20 and only 11 months apart) had the advantage of having a wonderful man in there lives for 12 years before a divorce that left them completely devasted and left their mom a basketcase. I made a lot of mistakes in the years following and I am sorry to say that the those years were crucial in making them who they are today. They are as different as night and day although they were raised in the same manner. One son overcame all of the hardships and difficulties he faced and is now a United States Marine serving his country and being the kind of man I always hoped he would become. And I am thankful everyday for his perseverance in life. This is the younger of the 2. My older son did not fair quite so well. He still lives at home, has a hard time keepin a job, constantly in trouble, and blames everyone around him for his troubles but himself. I have to take a lot of the blame as I did not provide him the stable environment that every child deserves. He has even gone so far as to push/hit his girlfriend which my younger son intervened and reminded him that in our family men respect woman and that he better never see him lay another hand on one or disrespect one in anyway. I often wonder what caused the 2 to grow into such different people. I question what caused one to go to the extreme to become an upstanding young man and the other to be so indifferent to life. I now have a 6 yo that Im trying to raise in the manner mentioned above and I have had my life on track the last several years and him and I spend a lot of time on things mentioned above especially laughing, being silly together, going on dates, talking and I believe that he looks up to my son who is a Marine. But the one he sees on a daily basis and interacts with is the one that causes so many disruptions. I really needed this today as I have struggled the last couple days over some decisions that will be life changing for all of us. So Thank you for posting. It gave me a boost of strength to do what I need to do and reminded me of the importance of influence one can have in the course of a young boys life. One thing I will add and that I think should be on there is that people are human, we make mistakes, and learning empathy and forgiveness are very important to ones own peace of mind in life. If a heart becomes filled with anger its hard to see anything else in life….

  24. Savannah Moore January 4, 2014 at 9:42 pm #

    Great blog!!!! Very helpful reminder of the things I should do in my busy life 🙂 Thanks

  25. Don January 5, 2014 at 4:31 pm #

    Honestly I just needed my mother to do the laundry growing up… maybe give me food before I could make it myself when I was probably about up to seven or eight years old. I would’ve appreciated it if she didn’t smoke in the car… Or Hit me for the smallest of offenses.

  26. Michelle January 5, 2014 at 5:03 pm #

    This is a wonderful post! As far as the “showing them what a woman needs” that seems to have struck a nerve (I am not a jewelry fan, either), I’d love to recommend the book “The Five Love Languages”. It explains how to make your spouse feel loved. A woman isn’t shallow for feeling loved when given jewelry if that is part of her “love language”, however is receiving gifts isn’t part of our “love language”, then being given jewelry will feel cheap and thoughtless – the money spent on us who don’t enjoy jewelry may seem wasteful, while it may tell the woman who enjoys it that she is worth the financial sacrifice.

    • butterflywritersm January 5, 2014 at 5:59 pm #

      Wonderfully said!

    • Brooke Gordon January 5, 2014 at 6:15 pm #

      That is an amazing book, and I highly recommend it to everyone :). I learned not only what my husband needs, but also more about myself.

  27. Suzanne Trussell January 5, 2014 at 7:30 pm #

    Love the article, I don’t disagree with the part about flowers and jewelry ( they are nice on occasion) teach them about the small things. …. like how she likes her coffee, etc. When asked my 6 year old son will tell you I don’t care for store bought flowers but cowboy roses ( wildflower weeds) are my favorite!

  28. rb4s January 5, 2014 at 8:26 pm #

    I love this article. I would add to sing with your son.

    Sing like crazy. Sing a conversation. Sing in different styles. My now eight year old son and I have been singing conversations to each other “opera style” since he was old enough to sing. We also might do rap, country, anything – and we never fail to crack each other up with the new “styles” we come up with. We are goofballs and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Just belt it out and they’ll follow suit, don’t worry about hitting the notes, just sing!

  29. Evelyn Botts January 5, 2014 at 8:47 pm #

    What a beautiful story ,I had one son and five girls all good kids

  30. Regnb January 5, 2014 at 8:49 pm #

    One thing that is missing that is of EXTREME importance is, learn when to let go…

  31. Leah Burton January 6, 2014 at 2:40 am #

    Nicely written. I also would like to mention something about beauty, as per your comments re makeup etc. I met my boy friend when I was 16 & at that time I would not leave the house without makeup on. I always wanted to wear heavy foundation to hide my freckles. On my second date my boyfriend turned up unexpectedly at my house to see me and I was in the process of drying myself after getting out of the shower. I was so embarrassed to have him see him in my natural form. But one thing he said to me on this day 32 years ago made me feel so good then and I will always remember. He said to me I look so pretty without any make up on. He said he loved my freckles and he was genuine when he said these compliments. We were both 16 years old and shy and as this was only the second time we had met it was important to set our relationship up. We started dating and had our ups and downs, 8 years later we wed. We have three beautiful children; 13, 7 & 4. Boy, girl, boy & I am so happy I found my knight in shining armour at sweet 16. With my son turning 14 this year I hope I can help him find the type of man he is. He is already kind and empathetic, but you know what hormones will do once they kick in! Anyway to me beauty is from within and makeup only hides beauty. Sure I wear it to feel special if I am going out to see Michael Buble or a special dinner, but other than that I do not wear it. All from my boyfriend giving me the courage to stop using it so many years ago ❤

  32. Mom of 3 January 6, 2014 at 6:13 pm #

    For those moms that are married to the father, I think it’s important to show their boys (and girls) that the marriage comes first, courtship never ends, and how to resolve differences with one’s spouse in a healthy and respectful way. Sometimes kids become the most important thing in a family, but if the unity in the parents suffers as a result, kids will not see how important it is for relationships to be guarded for the good of the family.

  33. Chari Zanker-stanford January 7, 2014 at 11:22 pm #

    A man should treat women like he wants his mom to be treated… You can live by that but don’t expect it …. demand it

  34. Susan Saraf January 8, 2014 at 3:34 am #

    I have three very young sons and my mother in law has two sons, (I’m married to one). I have to say the part about being by his side first after the baby etc…is crossing a boundary for a new mother and new wife etc…having experienced it. “Be right next to him… every time” reads well, but in reality can cause a lot of problems. As mothers of males we need to understand and respect and even encourage the fact that when the time comes his wife is his new number one – by allowing him to feel supported and loved moving on from us- ‘his family of origin’ so that his ‘family of creation’ can be as happy and healthy as he needs it to be. What woman wants a husband who is always looking to mom first? It’s not like it’s over but the role needs to shift at that point. I can bet it will be brutal to take a step back when my time comes, but knowing I raised an independent, respectful man who has his priorities straight, not a mama’s boy, will be worth it. Also having a daughter in law who feels respected goes a long way. Unless she’s a total byatch and then forget it, watch out for numero uno. Just kidding.

    • Sara January 9, 2014 at 7:48 pm #

      I completely agree, Susan. That was my only issue with this post; at a certain point, wives become the number one in a man’s life and mothers have to learn to respect that. Aside from that, every point in this article was wonderful and poignant.

    • SharingMom.com January 9, 2014 at 10:59 pm #

      Susan,
      Thank you. That last sentence gave me a chuckle. I couldn’t agree more with your sentiments. Sounds like you have a vision for your sons and the kind of men, husbands, and life you would like for them to have. That is admirable. The Proverbs 31 woman is a description of a mother’s vision for her son, King Lemuel.

      I wrote a piece about this very concept here: A Woman’s Vision – Proverbs 31:16
      http://sharingmom.com/a-womans-vision-proverbs-3116/

      Let me know what you think. 🙂

  35. daryl January 9, 2014 at 2:58 am #

    WELL I GOT 3 OUT OF THE 17….I GUESS THAT AINT TO BAD…WHO AM I KIDDING ITS SAD….

  36. Kristen Thompson-Riley January 9, 2014 at 7:20 pm #

    I’m a mom of 4 boys ages 10-19. I love your list. I wrote something similar (but titled a bit more harsh LOL) yesterday. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    Kristen
    http://www.bloodsweatcheers13.blogspot.com

  37. Paula Robertson January 11, 2014 at 4:58 pm #

    So awesome and true

  38. drjen January 13, 2014 at 7:59 pm #

    I just love this post. It’s apparent you are a lovely mother and your son is a lucky boy.

  39. lisa flowers January 17, 2014 at 5:50 pm #

    this is right on!!

  40. Brenda January 18, 2014 at 4:57 pm #

    You are a very wise woman, thank you for reminding us what it takes to raise beautiful children.

  41. Omo Osagiede January 21, 2014 at 9:49 pm #

    You missed one more…”To let him go when the time comes to let another woman into his life”

    • unbekannt April 12, 2014 at 5:36 pm #

      Amen to that!!!

    • Kathy August 16, 2014 at 1:40 am #

      The really really hard one😔 but sooo important.Thank you Omo for reminding us.

  42. Ellen Morecroft January 27, 2014 at 8:41 am #

    You are so right I am sure Ben is a great kid and will grow to be a fine young man some day, with loving parents like you both are he stands to be the very best he can be. Thanks for sharing. Hugs an old work friend

  43. Jennifer February 3, 2014 at 8:50 pm #

    This brought tears to my eyes my son is 5 and I’m going to print this and remind myself everyday to do each and everything you mentioned!!! 🙂

  44. Kenzie February 5, 2014 at 1:01 pm #

    I have a 2 year old boy and pregnant with boy number two expected in May and when I read this I couldn’t help but want to tear up and cry… It’s so true. I love having sons and hope that I can raise them to be gentlemen. This really helps me think that I’ve been on a good path so far.

  45. Adele Bach February 17, 2014 at 2:21 pm #

    I am 65 and I think I have succeeded..I followed most of these rules and have a kind loving son who is a great father and husband!!!

  46. annebennettbrosnan March 17, 2014 at 8:05 pm #

    This is so beautiful – thanks for this list! Mommy of two boys with another on the way! Anne girlinwellies.com

  47. Kathleen Spata March 25, 2014 at 8:30 pm #

    great article It is simply back to basics the easy road of success

  48. Anonymous :) April 23, 2014 at 4:22 am #

    And not to be tricked by his Mom (that destroys his trust in her).

  49. Anonymous :) April 23, 2014 at 4:55 am #

    And don’t throw away his prized possessions (which may be things that adults don’t think are important) without his knowledge. Creates a scar that lasts a lifetime.

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    […] This list is a wonderful, comforting list that I wish I had while child-raising.  Enjoy the read and always remember “things boys need from their moms.”  Girls and dads are included also.  https://butterflywriterblog.wordpress.com/2013/02/06/17-things-boys-need-from-their-moms/ […]

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